Preface |
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1.1 What Is Schema Therapy? |
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1.2 Understanding the Origin of Your Patterns |
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1.2.1 Recognizing your Modes |
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1.2.2 Changing your Modes |
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Part I: Become Familiar with Your Modes |
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2.1 Vulnerable Child Modes |
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2.1.1 Get in contact with your own Vulnerable Child Mode |
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2.1.2 Detecting Vulnerable Child Modes in others |
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2.2 Angry and Impulsive Child Modes |
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2.2.1 Get in contact with your own Angry or Impulsive Child Mode |
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2.2.2 Detecting Angry or Impulsive Child Modes in others |
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2.3.1 Get in contact with your own Happy Child Mode |
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2.3.2 Detecting the Happy Child in others |
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3 Dysfunctional Parent Modes |
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3.1 Demanding Parent Modes |
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3.1.1 How can I detect my own Demanding Parent Mode? |
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3.1.2 How can I detect a Demanding Parent Mode in other people? |
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3.2 Guilt-Inducing Parent Modes |
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3.2.1 How can I detect Guilt-inducing Parent Modes? |
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3.3.1 How can I detect a Punitive Parent Mode in myself? |
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3.3.2 How can I detect a Punitive Parent Mode in others? |
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4.1 Compliant Surrender Mode |
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4.1.1 How can I detect a Compliant Surrender Coping Mode in myself? |
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4.1.2 How can I detect a Compliant Surrender Mode in others? |
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4.2.1 How can I detect Avoidant Coping Mode in myself? |
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4.2.2 How can I detect Avoidant Coping Mode in others? |
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4.3 Overcompensatory Coping Mode |
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4.3.1 How can I detect Overcompensatory Coping Mode in myself? |
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4.3.2 How can I detect Overcompensatory Coping Mode in others? |
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5.1 How can I detect a Healthy Adult Mode in myself? |
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5.2 How can I detect a Healthy Adult Mode in others? |
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5.3 How can I distinguish the Healthy Adult Mode from other modes? |
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Part II: Change Your Modes |
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6 Healing Vulnerable Child Modes |
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6.1 Get Acquainted with your Vulnerable Child Mode |
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6.2 Taking care of your Vulnerable Child Mode |
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7 Gaining Control over Angry and Impulsive Child Modes |
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7.1 Get Acquainted with your Angry or Impulsive Child Mode |
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7.2 Setting Limits to Angry or Impulsive Child Modes |
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7.2.3 Learn to direct your behavior |
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7.2.4 How can I learn to control my anger? |
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8 Strengthen the Happy Child Mode |
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8.1 Get Acquainted with your Happy Child Mode |
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8.2 Exercises to Strengthen the Happy Child Mode |
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9 Setting Limits to Dysfunctional Parent Modes |
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9.1 Get in Touch with your Dysfunctional Parent Mode |
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9.2 Silence Dysfunctional Parent Modes |
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9.2.1 Exercises to reduce Dysfunctional Parent Messages |
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10.1 Get in Touch with your Coping Modes |
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10.2 Reducing Coping Modes |
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10.2.1 Reducing the Compliant Surrender Mode |
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10.2.2 Reducing avoidance |
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10.2.3 Reducing Overcompensation |
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11 Promoting Your Healthy Adult Mode |
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Glossary |
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References and Further Reading |
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Index |
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