"Mary Morgan draws on her immense clinical experience, her warmth and her intellectual depth to explore the interplay of desire, gender, and sexuality within the ever-present tension between togetherness and separateness. She shows how early experiences shape our ability to connect, how a couples shared unconscious phantasies, defenses, and beliefs both bind and challenge them, and how, in the context of curiosity about one another, love and hate can fuel creativity and result in mature, evolving relationships. This is a valuable resource for clinicians, scholars, and anyone seeking deeper insight into the transformative potential of love."
Harriet L. Wolfe, M.D., International Psychoanalytical Association
"Mary Morgan is the most important voice in the development of psychoanalytic couple psychotherapy, and in this book she takes us into new territory. With a gift for treating complex ideas with a lightness of touch whilst rendering their depth and importance, Morgan has given us the definitive introductory text. But this book is more than that. It is an invaluable guide that takes a developmental perspective on the discipline itself, tracing, remarkably succinctly, the history of analytic thinking in this area. And then, most brilliantly of all, Morgan draws links between object relations approaches, which are dominant in the UK and US, and theoretical approaches, which have grown up in France and South America. In this way, Morgan gives an unequalled international perspective on Couple Psychoanalysis. A definitive text for our times, and a perfect companion for Morgans first book, A Couple State of Mind: Psychoanalysis of Couples and the Tavistock Relationships Model. Together, they are must-reads for all of us working in the field."
Andrew Balfour, PhD, Chief Executive at Tavistock Relationships
"Mary Morgan is one of the most influential exponents of the British model of psychoanalysis of couples and is a deep and effective clinician.On the basis of solid training as an individual psychoanalyst, Mary Morgan approaches the most important issues that characterise this field throughout the world and succinctly develops her findings on the mental state of the couple. This book proves to be very useful because it illustrates in an original way the historical foundations of the conjugal link with its characteristics of unity and separateness, but it also looks at the most current developments of the couple and the different forms of sexuality."
Anna Maria Nicolņ, MD, Child neuropsychiatrist and President of International Association for Couple and Family Psychoanalysis (IACFP).
"A characteristic of an expert in her field is the ability convey highly complex ideas in an accessible way. In writing this book, Mary Morgan has once again demonstrated her ability to do this by achieving the herculean goal of describing succinctly, yet fully and helpfully, the two major theoretical frameworks in couple and family psychoanalysis: Object Relations and Link Theory. She persuasively argues how these two approaches can be integrated and lead to a deeper understanding of the intrapsychic and interpsychic dimensions of a couple relationship. She describes how in a couple when difference can be tolerated and the power of curiosity (or the epistemophilic instinct) freed it can facilitate the emergence of a couple state of mind. In the same way, she shows how the coupling of the two main theoretical approaches can result in a new and creative approach to couple work. Moreover, in demonstrating the efficacy of her ideas with clinical cases, she also powerfully demonstrates the value of couple psychoanalysis with the contemporary problems with which couples present, especially in relation to sexual problems and issues related to sexuality. With all this achieved, I believe she highlights once again that she has become a doyen of our profession. For all these reasons, I believe this book is essential reading for all who wish to grasp the fundamentals of couple psychoanalysis or to deepen their understanding of the latest advances in the field."
Timothy Keogh, Associate Professor, University of Sydney; Co-Chair, International Psychoanalytical Association Committee on Couple and Family Psychoanalysis (COFAP) and Former English Vice-President, International Association for Couple and family Psychoanalysis (IACFP).
