Written by the award-winning author of Draw On Your Emotions, this book is designed for professionals to help people explore, communicate and learn more about themselves in light of their relationships. Using images as a starting point, this bestselling resource provides a highly creative and thought-provoking arena for people to reflect on their relationships so that they can think, feel and act in more fulfilling and potent ways.
Designed to be used by therapists and educators working with children, teenagers and adults, it explores positive and negative relationship experiences, empowering people to gain greater insight and break destructive relationship patterns. Themes include: life-changing relationships; destructive relationships; good connections; failed connections; parent-child relationships, families and couples.
This revised and updated second edition contains a wealth of photocopiable material, including exercises and drawings, step-by-step guidance on using the exercises with clients, key rules and guidelines for helping people to speak about feelings. It also contains psychological insights backed up by the latest brain science, and beautiful new illustrations designed to facilitate deeper therapeutic conversations.
This revised and updated second edition also contains a new section on how to use the superbly emotive The Relationships Cards (ISBN 9781138071018) to facilitate deeper therapeutic conversations.
Recenzijas
Julia Bird, Director of Thrive
I am a founding director of a company that supports approximately 1,800 adults working in education to understand if a child has emotional developmental interruptions and what to do to make a difference. We train many teachers and other adults working in schools.
Margot Sunderlands books are recommended reading for those who attend our courses. Our trainees find the Draw On books very helpful in training and then also with their children - not just those children identified for special help. They deal with universal life themes relevant for all. I particularly like the theoretical explanation mixed with superb, doable activities/exercises and copyable handouts.
Margot is an acknowledged expert in her field and her passion to make such important understandings and ways of working with troubled children accessible to ordinary people - parents, teachers, support workers - is manifest in the old excellent editions. Her suggestions for the new editions for both books are really exciting. I certainly will recommend the new editions to the people with whom I work.
What is needed are work books that give the basic theoretical understanding - e.g. why using imagery is a potent way of supporting children to process feelings - with very usable activities that ordinary people can use to great effect with their children or with the children with whom they work.
The addition of the cards will help adults open the conversation with children/young people about difficult feelings. These are a real improvement on the books as they stand now. To have images that are so evocative will enhance the dialogue and give opportunities for all involved to tickle the imagination and make more sense and help the children digest their emotional responses to life situations that cause them such pain and difficulty.
The new suggestions will take the work with children from labelling feelings without a real connection to deeper meaning to an integration of feelings, imagination and language that deepen awareness and supports emotional development.
The cards will not go out of date as I imagine they will illustrate lifes difficulties that are timeless.
I absolutely support the need for updated editions of these superb books and think the cards to be incredibly helpful in supporting children to tell their stories and process trauma.
INTRODUCTION
How to use this book
Why use drawings and images to speak about feelings?
How to work safely
Key rules and guidelines in helping someone to speak about feelings
About sandplay and how to use it
YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
You, your relationships, your life
Encouragers and discouragers in my life (past and present)
People in your life, as gardens
The cocktail party
Your relationships as walls, bridges, comfortable sofas & take off
Museum of too alone
My childhood memories: People as places
Relationship riches
DEAD, DEPRIVING, DRAINING, DISAPPOINTING RELATIONSHIPS
My Relationship: Take off or stuck on the runway?
To leave or to stay?
The nothing much happening times
A relationship thats holding me back
People who energise. People who drain
Too many takers and not enough givers
Am I expecting too much from her/him?
Disappointing relationship or futile quest for perfect mate?
LIFE-CHANGING RELATIONSHIPS
People youve been flying with
Flying together as a group
Collecting moments, not things
Oh, how we laugh!
Knights (posing as people)
LOVE HURTS
Museum of hurt
When I cant reach you
Life after losing a person or their love
The end of a relationship. What now?
Loving someone who isnt good at loving
Do I matter to you?
No one listens / too unhelped
Rejected / not wanted / uninvited / redundant
On the outside of the group
DAMAGING AND DESTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIPS
Power over / power under / power with
Toxic shame
Managing conflict badly
Controlled
Emotional baggage
Hidden resentments
So many difficult/annoying people in my life
Anger fuelled by pain from the past
RELATIONSHIPS AND FEAR
Fear of intimacy
Withdrawal, avoidance and leaving
Fear of closeness and fear of distance
Fear of being in groups
Fear of being myself in case I am too much
Without a voice
Mistrust
TOOLS AND TECHNIQUES TO IMPROVE AND REPAIR RELATIONSHIPS
The art of relationship (for one person)
The when youI feel exercise (for two people)
The unfinished sentence exercise (for two people)
The 'like / dont like it game (for two people)
The empathy game (for two people)
Our best and worst times (for two people)
Theories of motivation (for two people)
Paper conversations
Dr Margot Sunderland is Director of Education and Training at The Centre for Child Mental Health London, Senior Associate of the Royal College of Medicine and Child Psychotherapist with over thirty years experience of working with children and families. Dr Sunderland is the author of over twenty books in child mental health, which collectively have been translated into eighteen languages and published in twenty-four countries. Her books, which form the Helping Children with Feelings series, are used as key therapeutic tools by child professionals all over the UK and abroad.
Nicky Armstrong holds an MA from the Slade School of Fine Art and a BA Hons in Theatre Design from the University of Central England. She is the principal artist at The London Art House and has illustrated over twenty books, which have been published in many countries. Nicky has also achieved major commissions nationally and internationally in mural work and fine art.
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