Embitterment is an emotional reaction anyone can have to injustices, humiliation, and breaches of trust. We have probably all encountered embitterment in ourselves or others at some time in our lives. Like other feelings, feelings of embitterment normally subside, but in some cases they can persist and cause a great deal of suffering. When these feelings take control of your life and you can't let go of the past negative events in your life, then support is needed.
This book helps you understand what embitterment is and how it can come about. It will also help you detach from these negative feelings and find ways to better deal with the hurtful situations, including learning to look to the future. You will learn about problem-solving strategies that focus on the psychology of wisdom and the development of wisdom, which include identifying facts and problem solutions, changing perspectives, self-relativizing, and emotional empathy. It has been scientifically proven that wisdom is a good remedy for embitterment.
This book is ideal support for anyone suffering from embitterment or for family, friends, or colleagues who want to learn how to support someone to not stay stuck in these difficult feelings.
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Anyone who is struggling with feelings of embitterment will find this book to be a wonderfully accessible description of the psychological state of embitterment that is replete with stories of the dangers and consequences of this emotional response.;Heidi M. Levitt, PhD, Department of Psychology, University of Massachusetts, Boston, MA, USA
Preface
1 Embitterment - What Is It?
1.1 How Does Embitterment Unveil Itself?
1.2 Why Is Embitterment so Agonizing?
1.2.1 Intrusive Memories
1.2.2 Withdrawing and Shutting Yourself off
1.2.3 Doing Things That Are not Effective and That Harm Yourself
and Others
1.2.4 Disliking Yourself and Suffering From Yourself
1.2.5 Losing the Ability to Think Clearly
2 What Offends People and Makes Them Embittered?
2.1 Injustice
2.2 Ingratitude
2.3 Breach of Trust
2.4 Degradation
2.5 Violation of Central Values and Basic Beliefs
3 When Does an Embittered Person Need Professional Help?
3.1 Duration, Generalization, and Intensity
3.2 Self-Harm
3.3 Not Liking Yourself
3.4 What Can Be Done?
4 Wisdom
4.1 Wisdom as a Problem-Solving Capacity
4.2 Wisdom in Addressing Embitterment
4.3 Wisdom Skills in Problem Solving
4.4 Knowledge of Facts and Procedures - What Is Actually Going on?
4.5 Contextualization - Which Circumstances Play a Role Here?
4.6 Value Relativism - What Is It All About?
4.7 Change of Perspective - What Do Others Actually Think?
4.8 Emotional Empathy - How Do Others Actually Feel?
4.9 Self-Distance - How Do Others See Me?
4.10 Self-Relativization - How Important Am I?
4.11 Relativization of Problems and Aspirations - What Am I Actually
Entitled to?
4.12 Emotional Awareness and Acceptance of Emotions - What Is
Going on in My Heart?
4.13 Emotional Serenity and Humor - How Do I Keep Cool?
4.14 Long-Term Perspective - What Matters Is the Future
4.15 Bringing the Past to a Close and Forgiving - Over is Over
4.16 Uncertainty Tolerance - Accepting What the Future Will Bring
4.17 Difficult Problems and Simple Solutions
5 What Is Psychotherapy?
5.1 How Do I Find a Therapist?
5.2 What Do Psychotherapists Do?
6 What Can Relatives Do?
7 Further Reading
8 Embitterment Checklist
9 Important Addresses
Christopher P. Arnold, PhD, is research assistant in the Research Group for Psychosomatic Medicine at the Charite University Medicine Berlin. He also works at the Rehab Clinic Seehof, a specialist clinic for cardiological, psychosomatical, and psychocardiological rehabilitation in Berlin since 2020. Prof. Michael Linden, PhD, is psychiatrist and licensed cognitive behavior therapist. He is director of the Research Group Psychosomatic Medicine at the Charite University Medicine Berlin and Medical Director of the Institute for Behavior Therapy Berlin. He has published books and several hundred articles in peer reviewed journals on psychological trauma, anxiety, depression and impairment because of mental disorders. He has done extensive research projects on embitterment and developed the basics of wisdom psychotherapy.
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