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| Introduction |
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| Part I The Painful Patterns that Create Unequal Love |
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Chapter 1 Falling in Love |
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The Pleasures and Perils of Passion |
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Power Shifts in Relationships |
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Chapter 4 The Commitment-Ambivalence Syndrome (CAS) |
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When the One-Up Is on the Fence |
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Chapter 6 From Rock Bottom to Rebirth |
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The Renaissance of the One-Down |
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| Part II How to Create an Equal Love That Lasts |
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Chapter 7 Letting Go of Old Solutions |
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How to Talk Balance Back into Your Relationship |
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Chapter 9 What One-Downs Can Do |
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Seven Equalizing Strategies |
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Chapter 10 What One-Ups Can Do |
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Seven Ways to Give Love a Chance |
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Chapter 11 Seeking the Roots of Imbalance |
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Situations, Sex Roles, Attraction Power |
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Chapter 12 The Balanced Self |
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An Introduction to Personality Styles |
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Chapter 13 The One-Down Personality |
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Learning to Value Yourself |
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Chapter 14 The One-Up Personality |
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Learning to Be Vulnerable |
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Chapter 16 Embracing the Paradox of Passion in Love and Marriage |
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249 | (16) |
| Bibliography |
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| About the Authors |
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