Learn how to create healthy personal and relationship boundaries
Boundaries are limits we establish for ourselves and implement through action or communication. Personal Boundaries For Dummies gives you all the basics on what boundaries look like (spoiler: they aren't "one-size-fits-all), along with step-by-step instructions for figuring out what your boundaries are and communicating them with others. When you start to level-up your boundaries, you might experience pushback from the people in your life, but dont worrythis book also helps you navigate these challenges. Create clarity, mutual respect, and harmony in all your relationshipsespecially your relationship with yourselfwith this clear and helpful Dummies guide.
- Explore the different types of boundaries and how they work in relationships
- Identify your own limits and non-negotiables so you can set boundaries with others
- Get advice on what to do when people dont respect your boundaries
- Learn when to seek professional help
Setting boundaries is a form of self-care, and each of us must create boundaries for our own safety, health, and well-being. Get started with Personal Boundaries For Dummies!
Introduction 1
Part 1: Defining Personal Boundaries 5
Chapter 1: Creating Order, Safety, and Protection with Boundaries 7
Chapter 2: Knowing What Boundaries Arent 29
Chapter 3: Exploring Privacy, Secrecy, and Intimacy 43
Part 2: Understanding the Need for Boundaries
63
Chapter 4: Appreciating the Ways That Boundaries Improve Your Life 65
Chapter 5: Setting Boundaries: Its a Learned Skill 79
Chapter 6: Managing Resistance and Pushback: Good Boundaries Wont Make You
Popular 97
Chapter 7: Knowing When You Need to Create a Boundary 117
Part 3: Exploring the Types of Boundaries and How They Work 141
Chapter 8: Physical Boundaries: Who Can Get Close to You and Your Physical
Possessions 143
Chapter 9: Sexual Boundaries: Yes and No Are Complete Sentences 155
Chapter 10: Boundaries for Speaking: Filtering Your Thoughts before Sharing
Them 177
Chapter 11: Boundaries for Listening: The Mother of All Boundaries 197
Chapter 12: Nonnegotiable Boundaries 215
Part 4: Creating Personal Boundaries 223
Chapter 13: Step 1: Know What Isnt Working 225
Chapter 14: Step 2: Get Clear about Your Reality 237
Chapter 15: Step 3: Clarify Your Needs and the Outcome You Want 251
Chapter 16: Step 4: See Where You Have Power Before Taking Action 267
Chapter 17: Step 5: Take Action to Create a Boundary 285
Chapter 18: Step 6: Evaluate Your Results and See What Went Wrong 301
Part 5: Figuring Out What to Do When Boundaries Dont Work 315
Chapter 19: Renegotiating a Broken Agreement 317
Chapter 20: Taking a Boundary to the Next Level: Advanced Skills for
Difficult Situations 331
Part 6: The Part of Tens 347
Chapter 21: Ten Out-of-the-Box Options for Extra Protection 349
Chapter 22: Ten Myths about Boundaries 355
Chapter 23: Ten Signs That You Need Professional Help 363
Index 371
Victoria Priya, LCSW, SEP (formerly Vicki Tidwell Palmer), is the host of The Boundaries Queen podcast, the founder of the Radiant Threefold Path, author of Moving Beyond Betrayal, and an award-winning blogger. She is a master coach who works with clients from all walks of lifefrom entrepreneurs to home-schooling moms. Her clients call her the Boundaries Queen.
