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A personal code for happier, more fulfilling relationships
Strong, loving relationships are what life is all about. And some people are really good at them. They find a partner who makes them happy and they know instinctively how to handle tricky times while keeping things fresh and rewarding. They have partnerships that stand the test of time and they make it look effortless.
Is there something these people know that we don't? Is it something we can all benefit from? The answer is a resounding yes. They know The Rules of Love.
These Rules are the guiding principles that will help you form strong and enduring relationships, and support you when things aren't going the way that you wanted them to. In this new edition, Richard Templar has added 10 brand new Rules to help make your relationships even more rewarding. You'll feel the benefits, and so will everybody around you.
Introduction
Rules for finding love 1 Be yourself 2 Get over it before you get
on with it 3 You won't be happy with a partner until you can be happy on
your own 4 You'll know them when you meet them 5 Choose someone who
makes you laugh 6 Being less than a hundred per cent attractive is a great
filter 7 Don't keep making the same mistakes 8 Certain people are off
limits (you know who they are) 9 You can't change people 10
Relationships aren't about sex 11 Get to know someone through all the
seasons before making any major decisions 12 Don't stay with someone who
doesn't care 13 If you can't trust them, you haven't got a relationship
14 Be honest (while you still have the chance) 15 Don't play games 16
Don't tar new partners with old brushes 17 Check you both have the same
shared goals 18 Create the power balance you both want 19 You can't
make someone love you 20 Be cruel to be kind
Relationship Rules 21 Be nice 22 Be together because you want to,
not because you need to 23 Allow your partner the space to be themselves
24 Look to your own faults 25 Be honourable 26 Put each other first
27 Recognize the signs 28 Be a hero or a heroine 29 Accept the
differences, embrace what you have in common 30 Don't belittle your
partner 31 You want to do what? 32 Let not the sun go down upon your
wrath 33 Be the first to say sorry 34 Let them have the last word 35
Houston, we have a problem 36 Don't put them on a pedestal and expect them
to stay there 37 Know when to listen and when to act 38 Never stop
trying to be attractive 39 If you can say something nice, do 40 Don't
try to be their parent 41 Be part of their life 42 If little things
annoy you, say so with humour 43 Go that extra step in trying to please
them 44 Make sure your partner is always pleased to see you 45 Don't
dump responsibility on your partner 46 Let them know if you don't like
their friends 47 Jealousy is your stuff, not theirs 48 Your partner is
more important than your kids 49 Make time for romance 50 Have a
passion for your life together 51 Share the workload 52 Trust the other
one to do the job 53 Don't be a nag 54 Make sure your love making is
making love 55 Don't control them 56 Listen to what they're not saying
57 Most everyday arguments are about something else 58 Respect privacy
59 Treat your partner better than your best friend 60 Don't be offended
if they want some space 61 Men like flowers too 62 Keep your finances
separate 63 Contentment is a high aim 64 Be generous to each other
financially 65 You make a choice every day 66 Don't be a martyr 67
Stop sniping someone has to 68 You don't both have to have the same
rules 69 Do it their way if it matters more to them 70 Put yourself in
their shoes 71 In-laws are part of the package 72 Keep talking 148
Family Rules 73 Don't blame your parents 74 Don't let your parents
control your feelings 75 Your children come before you 76 Nothing is
worth falling out over 77 Don't shout at the people you love 78 Treat
them right, no matter how they treat you 79 There are no circumstances in
which it is ever acceptable to say I told you so' 80 Don't pressurize
your family just because you can 81 Never be too busy for loved ones 82
Make the effort 83 Your children need to fall out with you to leave home
84 They don't have to be the same as you 85 Accept people's flaws 86
There's always stuff with siblings 87 Let go of your role 88 What will
be left of you?
Friendship Rules 89 There are no rules 90 Your best friend was once
a stranger 91 Only have people in your life who, on balance, make it
better not worse 92 If you're going to be a friend, be a good friend 93
Forgive 94 Never give advice 95 Don't make other people uncomfortable
96 Find friends who love the truth 97 Never lend money unless you're
prepared to write it off 98 If you don't like their partner, tough 99
When one finger points forwards, three point back 100 Friendships change
101 Know when to let go 102 Bitterness helps no one
Rules for everyone 103 People are more important than things 104
Guilt is a selfish emotion 105 Love equals time 106 The more you put
out, the more you get back 107 Other people are where it's at
The Rules of parting 108 Listen to your own internal voice 109
Recognize that it takes two 110 It doesn't have to be anyone's fault
111 Keep the moral high ground 112 Don't keep raking it over 113 Leave
the kids out of it 114 Remember they're not a monster 115 Identify your
own mistakes 116 Choose friends you can trust 117 There is life beyond
parting
Had enough yet . . .?
Richard Templar is the author of the international bestselling Rules books. Over 2 million people around the world have enjoyed and now play by Richard Templar's Rules. The complete list of titles is as follows: The Rules of Life, The Rules of Work, The Rules of Management, The Rules of Wealth, The Rules of Parenting, The Rules of Love, The Rules to Break, The Rules of People, The Rules of Thinking, and The Rules of Living Well.
