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| Acknowledgements |
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| Introduction |
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Bullying has more victims than just the initial target |
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If you can't hurt me, you can't bully me |
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3 Bullying is all about the victim |
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There was a lot of strong feeling. There were expressions of disgust, repulsion, abhorrence and anger |
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If it continues, tell the teacher |
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A real person with real feelings |
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6 The shared responsibility meeting |
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I've called you together today to seek your assistance in finding a solution to a problem |
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I had had enough of their justification, light-hearted, non-serious, `this is a joke' type responses and attitudes |
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The fear of consequences is often more powerful than the implementation of consequences |
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9 Dealing with repeat offenders--the second meeting |
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A part of our learning is to realise that in the real world there are consequences for our actions |
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10 Dealing with repeat offenders--the third meeting |
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At this point it is necessary to share the responsibility with the parents |
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11 Searching for facts and finding the truth |
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He stood alone as a victim, he now stood alone as one accused of lying, or as one in need of providing proof to substantiate his suffering and pain |
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12 Dealing with `challenging' students |
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My feelings of doubt and nervousness were magnified when confronted with the `challenging' student |
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13 Student support--the `wounded' student |
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I was worried that without help she would find it difficult to reconnect with her peers and cope with future feelings of rejection or criticism |
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14 Student support--body language |
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If you look strong, you will begin to feel strong |
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15 Student support--building social confidence |
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Deep down he wanted to be liked, accepted and belong |
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16 Student support--the `victim' student |
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84 | (6) |
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Above all else, do not show your fear |
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17 Student support--the `skilled' recipient |
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This is starting to really annoy me. Not funny any more! |
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18 A whole school approach |
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Not all bullying behaviours need to be reported, but none should pass by unchallenged |
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19 A whole school approach--safety surveys |
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I have found that providing an opportunity to name bullies has acted as a deterrent for those students who may believe they can continue to bully undetected |
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20 A whole school approach--teaching in the classroom |
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All these things are bullying, and all these things are not bullying |
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21 Complications and well-meaning people |
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111 | (6) |
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I'll tell you what to do. The next time he lays a hand on you, turn around quickly and plant one right between the eyes, as hard as you can |
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