Introduction |
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Why We Waited |
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Yes, The Wait Is (Sort of) About Sex |
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Answer to the Important Questions |
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Chapter One No Sex? You Can't Be Serious |
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Sex, Waiting, and Relationships |
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3 | (2) |
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5 | (2) |
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Why We Chose to Be Celibate |
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7 | (3) |
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10 | (3) |
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Things to Know About Being Celibate |
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13 | (6) |
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19 | (1) |
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Does It Really Have to Be Until Marriage? |
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20 | (1) |
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21 | (3) |
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24 | (1) |
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Celibacy Versus Abstinence |
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24 | (2) |
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The Energy to Change Everything |
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26 | (2) |
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Delayed Gratification and Marshmallows |
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28 | (1) |
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Being Selective Makes You More Desirable |
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29 | (2) |
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31 | (2) |
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Chapter Two Getting What You Really Want (Hint: It Isn't Sex) |
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Becoming the Best Version of Yourself |
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34 | (5) |
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39 | (7) |
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46 | (1) |
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How The Wait Improved Our Lives |
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46 | (4) |
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The Wait and ... Finances |
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50 | (1) |
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Grabbing Hold of the Life You Want |
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51 | (1) |
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The Wait Reprograms Your Pleasure Software |
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52 | (4) |
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56 | (1) |
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It Puts You Back in Control |
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57 | (3) |
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It Pulls the Right People to You |
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60 | (2) |
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Other Key Reasons Why Waiting Is Worth It |
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62 | (5) |
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67 | (2) |
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Chapter Three First Steps Down the Path to Authentic Love |
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69 | (18) |
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70 | (2) |
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72 | (1) |
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Let God Be Your Matchmaker |
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72 | (3) |
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What If the Other Person Is Waiting First? |
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75 | (1) |
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Give Up the Illusion of "The One" |
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75 | (4) |
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79 | (1) |
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80 | (4) |
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84 | (1) |
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85 | (2) |
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Chapter Four Lead Me Not into Temptation, I Can Find It Myself |
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87 | (20) |
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Remembering Why You Started |
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90 | (1) |
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91 | (1) |
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The Wait and ... Creativity |
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92 | (1) |
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What Temptation Looks Like |
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93 | (3) |
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96 | (1) |
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Temptation Avoidance Tips |
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96 | (1) |
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97 | (3) |
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Prepare for Every Contingency |
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100 | (2) |
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102 | (2) |
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104 | (3) |
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Chapter Five What Keeps Women from Waiting? |
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107 | (30) |
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Happily Ever After? Not So Much |
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110 | (3) |
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113 | (1) |
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For Women, Celibacy Is Control |
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114 | (3) |
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"If I Don't Sleep with Him, I'll Lose Him" |
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117 | (2) |
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119 | (1) |
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"There Are Only a Few Good Men Out There" |
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120 | (2) |
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122 | (2) |
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124 | (4) |
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Fear Is a Failure of Faith |
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128 | (3) |
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The Wait and ... Friendships |
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131 | (1) |
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Waiting Gives You Back Your Power |
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131 | (2) |
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How Waiting Gets You What You Want |
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133 | (4) |
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Chapter Six What Keeps Men from Waiting? |
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137 | (26) |
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140 | (2) |
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142 | (2) |
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144 | (1) |
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Walking, Talking Sex Drives |
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145 | (3) |
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What Are You Doing with Your Not-Tied-Downness? |
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148 | (2) |
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150 | (1) |
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151 | (4) |
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The Wait and ... Business |
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155 | (1) |
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Faith and The Waiting Man |
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155 | (3) |
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Attention Is the Currency of True Success |
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158 | (1) |
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159 | (3) |
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162 | (1) |
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Chapter Seven Can I Date While I Wait? |
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163 | (30) |
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164 | (2) |
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166 | (3) |
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DUI: Dating Under Infatuation |
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169 | (3) |
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172 | (1) |
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172 | (3) |
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You Know Not Because You Ask Not |
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175 | (3) |
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178 | (6) |
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Dipping Your Toe into the Dating Pool |
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184 | (2) |
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186 | (1) |
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187 | (2) |
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Telling Your Date About The Wait |
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189 | (2) |
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191 | (2) |
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Chapter Eight When Should I Commit? |
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193 | (32) |
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Live as You Before You Live as We |
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199 | (1) |
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If You're Ready, Don't Be Afraid to Move Ahead |
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200 | (4) |
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204 | (1) |
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205 | (3) |
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Learning ... Every Date, Every Day |
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208 | (3) |
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Should You Live Like You're Married When You're Not? |
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211 | (3) |
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The Friends-and-Family Plan |
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214 | (3) |
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217 | (1) |
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218 | (3) |
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221 | (2) |
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The Blessings of Marriage |
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223 | (2) |
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Chapter Nine Don't Give Up |
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225 | (20) |
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227 | (1) |
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228 | (2) |
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Plenty to Do in the Meantime |
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230 | (1) |
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231 | (1) |
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232 | (3) |
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The Wait and ... Self-Esteem |
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235 | (1) |
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236 | (2) |
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238 | (4) |
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242 | (3) |
Acknowledgments |
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