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Introduction: You Can Do This |
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PART ONE Workparenting, Phase by Phase |
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Understanding your Workparent Template |
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When others aren't expecting it |
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How to handle questions and detractors |
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What to begin planning for and what can wait |
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Finding, assessing, choosing, and hiring a care provider |
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What you may be thinking and feeling |
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The first few days and weeks |
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Communicating with your caregiver(s) |
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If you need to make a change |
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Emergency and backup care |
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Trusted caregivers, happy child |
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3 Parental Leave and the Return to Work |
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Leave length: what if...? |
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Creating an effective transition and coverage plan |
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Staying in touch while you're out |
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How to use leave when you're not the primary caregiver |
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How to feel in charge of your career while away |
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Ways to make the return to work easier |
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Celebrating new achievements |
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Establishing a Point of Control |
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Learning to make effective transitions to and from work |
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Staying and feeling connected while on the job |
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Creating a new daily schedule that works--for You |
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Navigating the important Year One milestones |
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Taking charge of your performance review |
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Setbacks--and how to overcome them |
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5 From Baby to Toddler to Little Kid |
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Making the most of care transitions |
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Bonding with your child through activity |
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Harnessing the power of repetition and ritual |
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Explaining work to very small children |
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Confronting the screen-time dilemma |
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Still owning--and updating--your story |
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Considering changes at work |
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Staying on the right path--for |
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6 Expanding Your Family--If, When, and How |
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Considering the pros and cons |
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When you still can't decide |
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What to know and do when moving from one child to two-- or more |
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Large-family strategies useful for all working parents |
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Why the start of school is hard, and how to make it easier |
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Educating them at home--and every day |
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Developing a strong relationship with your child's teacher(s) |
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Talking with your manager and colleagues about school commitments |
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How to be present--and what to do when you can't |
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Handling school-related emergencies |
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When school's out--but work isn't |
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The working-parent-friendly school |
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8 The Almost-Teen and Teenage Years |
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Making the relationship positive |
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How to keep them safe when you're not around to play police officer |
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Staying connected when busy on the job |
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Getting them ready for adulthood--without dropping the ball on your career |
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Handling the logistics of next steps |
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Making workparenting your teen easier |
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PART TWO Resources--and Smart Ways to Use Them |
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9 If "It Takes a Village," Then You're the Mayor |
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Are you a Do-It-Myselfer? |
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The 8-C method for assessing and expanding your Village |
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Communicating with the Village |
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Adapting your support network over time |
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Sorting out what's really important |
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Containment: what, when, and how |
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Time and busyness as part of your professional brand |
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Your working-parent calendar |
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The real meaning of "balance" |
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The three financial phases of working parenthood |
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Common workparent money dilemmas, and how to think through them |
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Making money matters logistically easier |
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Real parents, real returns |
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PART THREE Success--on Your Own Terms |
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Dealing with skeptics and naysayers |
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What if it all goes wrong? |
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When you're happy where you are |
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Is this particular transition worth it? |
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I WAP: Interviewing While a Parent |
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How to tell if an employer is working-parent friendly |
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Explaining it to the kids |
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How you might be feeling as you make the switch |
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Your business model matters |
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Systems and infrastructure are essential |
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Entrepreneurship and parenting will feel similar |
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Now, back to you: questions to ask yourself as an entrepreneurial workparent |
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Possible arrangements, what they offer--and what to be cautious about |
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What's going to work for you? |
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Making it work, day-to-day |
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Sending the right career signals |
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Your workparent Away Planner |
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Specific and powerful ways to stay, and feel, in touch |
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Making your homecoming calmer and more satisfying |
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Showing up and being there |
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Vacation: how, when, and where |
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Your time-off action plan |
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PART FOUR Staying Well and Whole |
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Fail-safe ways to make the logistics easier |
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Feeding very small children |
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Takeout, eating out, and fast food |
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How to make Family Meals happen |
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Food as part of your family's template |
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19 Health--Yours and Theirs |
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Rituals and activities that relax and recharge you |
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Creating your energy action plan |
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Learning to work well when your battery is low |
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Where the difficult feelings come from |
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Ten specific strategies that work |
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And strategies that don't |
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Giving yourself what you need and deserve |
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PART FIVE Your Family, Your Way |
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23 Sole or Almost-Sole Earner |
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Thirteen Key Questions that will help you make it work |
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When your colleagues don't get it |
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Managing professional impressions |
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Making workparent decisions solo |
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Giving your child what they need |
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Confidence for the long term |
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Templating, role models, and mentors |
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The need to divide and conquer |
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Conclusion: A New Template, All Our Own |
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Appendix: The Workparent Leader |
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Becoming a more workparent-friendly organization |
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Setting up a working-parents network in your community or organization |
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Managing workparents, day-to-day |
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Research Note: Learning from Working Parents |
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Index |
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Acknowledgments |
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About the Author |
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