Foreword |
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Introduction |
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Section One There's a Whole Wide World Out There |
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1 What Is Consensual Non-Monogamy? |
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11 | (4) |
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15 | (4) |
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19 | (8) |
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4 The Road To Consensual Non-Monogamy |
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27 | (6) |
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5 Why Consensual Non-Monogamy |
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33 | (8) |
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41 | (4) |
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7 Deciding to Explore Consensual Non-Monogamy |
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45 | (6) |
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51 | (14) |
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9 God, Nature and Other Adversaries |
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65 | (14) |
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10 Dealing With Prejudice |
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79 | (8) |
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11 Opening Up a Relationship |
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87 | (14) |
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101 | (6) |
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107 | (18) |
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Section Two It Ain't What You Do, It's The Way That You Do It |
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125 | (4) |
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129 | (4) |
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133 | (10) |
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17 Open Relationships and Don't Ask, Don't Tell |
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143 | (12) |
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155 | (2) |
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19 Hierarchical Polyamory: `Couple-Plus' |
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157 | (4) |
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20 Being a Treatise Upon Triads, Quads & Divers Polygones |
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161 | (4) |
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165 | (6) |
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22 Poly Families and Poly Networks |
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171 | (6) |
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23 Kitchen Table and Parallel Poly |
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177 | (4) |
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181 | (8) |
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189 | (14) |
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Section Three Heffalump Traps |
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26 Managing CNM Relationships |
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203 | (2) |
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27 Poly/Mono Relationships |
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205 | (8) |
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28 The Thing About Couples |
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213 | (12) |
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29 If You're Thinking of Dating a Couple |
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225 | (4) |
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30 Unicornes and the Huntinge Thereof |
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229 | (8) |
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31 The One-Penis Policy and its Discontents |
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237 | (8) |
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32 A Consensually Non-Monogamous Person's Bill of Rights |
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245 | (12) |
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257 | (8) |
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34 New Relationship Energy |
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265 | (6) |
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271 | (6) |
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36 Do Consensually Non-Monogamous People Have Better Sex? |
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277 | (4) |
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37 Asexuality and Demisexuality |
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281 | (4) |
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38 Overlaps with Kink/Fetish/BDSM Communities |
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285 | (8) |
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293 | (8) |
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301 | (10) |
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Section Four It's Illogical Captain |
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311 | (6) |
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42 What Titi Monkeys Know |
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317 | (4) |
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43 Does Jealousy Have a Purpose? |
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321 | (8) |
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44 What Attachment Theory Can Tell Us |
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329 | (8) |
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45 Anxiety, Fear and Guilt |
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337 | (6) |
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46 Coping with Anxiety and Other Mental Health Issues |
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343 | (8) |
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351 | (12) |
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363 | (8) |
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Section Five Loves Kills Love Skills |
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371 | (4) |
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375 | (6) |
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381 | (20) |
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52 Honesty, Radical or Otherwise |
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401 | (10) |
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53 Rules, Agreements and Boundaries |
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411 | (14) |
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425 | (8) |
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433 | (4) |
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437 | (6) |
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57 Celebrating Poly Relationships |
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443 | (4) |
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447 | (6) |
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Section Six It's Political, Innit?! |
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59 The Politics of Consensual Non-Monogamy |
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60 Money, Class and the Social Divide |
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457 | (6) |
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61 Gender, Gender Roles and Feminism |
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463 | (8) |
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471 | (8) |
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479 | (16) |
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495 | (6) |
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501 | (8) |
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Section Seven Hell is Other People |
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66 Community: Being Part of the Tribe |
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509 | (6) |
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515 | (12) |
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68 Leadership and Justice |
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527 | (8) |
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535 | (4) |
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539 | (8) |
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547 | (8) |
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555 | (2) |
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557 | (2) |
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74 Where Does It Go From Here? |
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559 | (8) |
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Thanks and Acknowledgements |
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563 | (4) |
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Appendix 1 Less Common Poly Configurations |
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567 | (2) |
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569 | (2) |
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Appendix 3 Acknowledgements and Biographies |
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