For every wounded warrior, there is a wounded home--an immediate and extended family and community impacted by their loved one's war experiences. Every day service members are returning from combat deployments to their families. And every day war comes home with them.
When a combat veteran struggles with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and/or traumatic brain injury (TBI), every member of the family experiences the effects. Spouses, parents, and children must undergo changes on the home front, a process that resembles the phases of grief. Confusion, hurt, anger, guilt, fatigue, and fear lie behind their brave smiles and squared shoulders.
Wounded Warrior, Wounded Home gives hurting families a look inside the minds and hearts of wounded warriors and guides them in developing their own personal plan for physical, emotional, and spiritual wholeness in the wake of war. The authors, one the wife of a career US Navy SEAL and the other a clinical psychologist and Vietnam veteran, speak from their own experiences of living with PTSD and TBI. They also share insights from dozens of families and careful research, offering readers a hope-filled way forward.
| Acknowledgments |
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| Introduction |
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1 Wounded Warrior, Wounded Home |
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2 Living Grief: The Pain of the Shattered Dream |
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3 Dealing with Delays, Detours, and Denied Entry |
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4 Smelly Issues and the Fragrance of Forgiveness |
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5 Weary, Worn Out, and Wondering Why |
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6 It's His What It Is: Our New Normal |
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7 New from the Inside Out: Breaking the Cycle of Compassion Fatigue |
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8 Faithful Body Parts and the Power of Friendship |
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9 Permission to Engage: Spiritual Warfare on the Home Front |
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10 The Savior's War Wounds: Our Hope |
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| Epilogue |
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| Appendix A Traumatic Brain Injury and PTSD---What's the Difference? |
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| Appendix B What Helps and What Hurts: A Word to Civies, Our Civilian Friends and Community, Who Truly Care |
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| Appendix C Additional Resources |
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Marshéle Carter is the coauthor of When War Comes Home and the author of Hope for the Home Front. She and her former husband of more than 30 years, a U.S. Navy SEAL, along with their three children, experienced many lengthy separations and frequent deployments for combat duty, special operations training, and real-world conflicts during a 25-year military career. From 2002-2015 Marshéle served as founder and president of Hope for the Home Front, a nonprofit that provided resources, conferences, and community to women whose lives are connected to combat veterans with PTSD and TBI. She has been featured in international, national, and local media including The Diane Rehm Show on National Public Radio (NPR), Time magazine, the BBC, Los Angeles Times, the Huffington Post, the Washington Post, and Fox News. Marshéle completed her MA in mass communication/strategic corporate communication at UNC's School of Media and Journalism in 2014.
Kelly K. Orr, PhD, ABPP, has more than 30 years experience in behavioral medicine and pain management. He serves on the advisory council and speaking team of Hope for the Home Front. Dr. Orr completed his PhD in Clinical Psychology at Biola University, Rosemead School of Psychology in 1978. He reentered military service with the Air Force in 1987 and retired in 2004 with a combined USMC and Air Force career of 25 years. He now makes his home in Colorado Springs with his wife Kathy, enjoying the mountains, hiking, fishing, and spending time with his eight grandchildren.
